Expectations

I've been learning a lot about expectations lately. Having them and not having them.
 If you have expectations they can lead to disappointment, being let down. People can meet or supersede your expectations or fall short. Your expectations can be for yourself which could drive you to greater things, or for the people around you hoping more for them, or simply having expectations of food being tasty. Having expectations can lead to being hurt, or onto great and wonderful things. It is simply having faith in yourself or others.
  Not having expectations leads to great surprises, no pressure to please, no way of disappointment. If you don't expect someone to do something anyways. When they don't do it you won't be shocked by it. Oddly enough not having expectations of someone is exactly having expectations for them just your expectations are nothing.
In my own personal opinion I believe living with expectations will have better results. I do believe there's more pressure, and more responsibility when it comes to expectations. In the long run of things I believe if you can expect more of yourself you'll drive yourself to become better and do more things, if you expect more from your friends and family then maybe they will try more as well. Unfortunately it could lead to failure. Such as life. if our expectations are set too high and are unrealistic they are doomed to fail and you build resentment. If you build expectations that are achievable and attainable you can gain great achievements for yourself. If you build expectations within the realm of possibility for those around you they too can achieve greatness. I believe expectations can drive you to greater possibilities in life, but also hurt you. I've been hanging out with this person lately and they got hurt a lot by putting expectations on others then they failed them. The expectations they were expecting out of these people weren't that high, very doable, but the people felt such a simple task and it hurt them. Now I feel sad for them they don't want to live their life with any expectations, because you can't get hurt if you don't expect it. So when they do fail you saw it coming. I would like to change their mind about expectation someday, but that might take a bit of time.


Sifu Langner